Posts Tagged ‘People’

its a long one lol
i have very little self esteem. im a full time mum of 2 and am very proud of my children. how i see myself is really affecting my life, i have acne and am too ashamed to go gp to get it sorted, so instead i pile on makeup and hope it will go away (which i know wont it just makes it worse). it affects my kids as i don’t like to go out unless i have to, i cant play with them how i should or take them swimming, things people take for granted as im scared my make up will come off and people will see my horrible face. it affects my relationship as i take 2 hours to get ready and he hates it, we argue. i want to go to work but am to ashamed to meet new people and i take so long to get ready i would have to get up at 5am to be ready for a 9till 5 job. bizarrely people tell me im beautiful and i get chatted up all the time so i cant work it out. how can i make myself more confident without actually changing how i look????
its not a case of how other people see me its about myself. people tell me im beautiful all the time, sometimes random strangers will just come and say it. but it makes me feel worse about myself. im happy in life and i dont care what others think of me, i want to be happy with myself.

Think Positive. Say "I am beautiful", once a day when looking in the mirror. Think of your positive features. Do not be ashamed to get help for your acne, because that just makes it worse. Believe in your self, and know that you are beautiful. And go out and about once in a while, no matter what you think that day. Maybe even some counseling could help. =]

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Me and my spouse are both in are early 20’s. I am 39 weeks pregnant with my third child. The first child is from a past relationship but two of the children are my spoouses. I come to notice today that i may in be a relationship that has always been or that is beginning to be emotional abuse as my spouse has been blowing up at me frequently weekend after weekend out of no where with lots to say and putting me down. What to do when you feel you are emotionally abused?
Things he has said : im hairy, im lazy, im a bumb and just sit on my ass and expect to have everything paid for, why do i even put on makeup who’s gonna look at me, today at 39 weeks pregnant he says for me to get off my fat ass, he says very negative things about my family, my mom is in a relationship with a black man and he says for me to go get a black guy. i dunno thats just alittle bit of things. But what do you think . He said all this today and i need to be strong as this is hard for me because i have a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old and due for my third child this week. I do not feel that i am any of those things he has said to me cause i am smarter then that and know how much of a good mother i am and hard working mother.
My feelings for my spouse have really changed as i feel anger towards him and the hurtful things he has been saying and feels about me.
I have not really told anyone about what has been going on because i dont really know anyone close enough to trust and respect my personal problems with my spouse.
After he put me down all day he left with my two children for the day and came back like everything is ok. People say things when they get upset he says no big deal.

Leave that LOSER!!! NOW!

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we just broke up a week ago and she can even talk to me in a friendly way. she’s removed me from her msn (found out via meebo.com) and she texted me to say she wanted to return my stuff (friendly tone). sometimes she replies my sms, sometimes don’t. according to her friends they say she’s ok after the breakup. we broke up many times before because of my bad temper. she’s not the perfect gf and we only dated for 7 months, but she has good qualities and i missed her. i really want to win her back and go for anger management just so i won’t lose her. but she won’t listen to anymore of my apologies and promises. pls advise. thanks!

Actions speak louder than words. Go for anger management and work on improving yourself. Then go to her when you’ve completed that. You may have to start fresh with a new girl once you’ve improved yourself. Sometimes that’s the way it works out when nothing changes between two people who have tried more than once to be together.

Good luck.

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I think I must too think much of myself or something Im female 21, very quiet and people say I lack confidence I know what I do lack is social skills Im not very articulate. Anyway the thing is Im happy with my looks (im slim and secretly think I have quite a nice face) but I never get guys interested and at college we did a facial attraction activity for coursework where we had to rate each others looks anonynously, I got mainly 4’s out of 10 and just one 5 most of the girls were getting 7’s and 8’s. I got the lowest score in the class even below the 36 year old lecturer lol. I could see they wer ebeing honest because the best looking did get the highest. My mum tried to cheer me up by saying that if I had a makeover I wouldnt recognize myself, that its because I dont wear makeup, dress plainly and that the people in the class must have just happened to be very good looking. From this Ive conclued that even my mum thinks I look quite bad.

Also a guy I got friends with and met online (who I broke up with) said that when he first saw me he wasnt so sure about a relationship but that he lowered his standards and gave me a chance cause he liked my personality. He said he is now concerned about other girls rejecting him because he couldnt even get me.

Anyway the thing is I dont understand how I can be happy with how I look and yet other people dont think I look ok. Im happy with what I see in the mirror I know that how we see ourselves is not how others see but then Im also ok with how I look on videos and photos. I think I look better on videos than I look in the mirror. Im not saying I think im amazing but Im just happy with what I see..maybe im subconsciously in denial or something :/ ? I must be since guys are not interested or attracted. Seriously though I don’t know what to think I dont know how im supposed to have confidence if others see me as ugly? And how come im happy with what I see on video if Im perceived as ugly?

if you’re happy, that’s all that matters. But since you said you dress plainly and don’t wear make-up, I’m guessing you aren’t taking advantage of your potential to be presentable and attractive. You will be happier if you take advantage of it. A lot of people can’t even be attractive no matter how much they try.

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I’m in middle school and it seems like no matter how hard I try, people have no desire to be my friend. I have several people I hang out with but no real friends. I had one good friend but then she people, and then people told people something deeply personal and I am very mad at her. Now the entire middle school is laughing at me and I have no friends. Unfortunately, I am a teachers pet. I am decently smart and have made a very strong relationship with one of my teachers. I am half a foot taller than everybody else and so I stand out a little and well, I’m very noticeable because of that and the fact that I’m almost always alone. 10% of the people in our grade are SNOBS!! (Intense snobs too, like "my life is miserable because my dad won’t give me MORE money to take me shopping for more close to fill my closet that’s bigger than the girl’s locker room" and "We aren’t going to Florida this weekend so my life is terrible" and "Daddy got me a interview with a buddhist monk for my World Histories project") I want to make friends with people who aren’t snobs and who will take me for me, not how much makeup I wear…

The best advice I can give you is to just be friendly with people. I don’t know how bad the secret was that the girl blabbed about but just ignore it. If you act like it’s not a big deal, then eventually it will go away. Keep in mind you’re only in middle school. You won’t be taller than everyone forever. Once you hit 15 or so everyone else will catch up to your height. I remember being taller than most people in elementary school and now I’m shorter than most people haha. Just give it time. High school is way better than middle school and college is even better than high school. It only gets better from where you are now

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