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I know that im not the only one, but dammit!
First of all, im gonna be 18 on saturday, and for me it’s not much of an achievement, since I have no friends to celebrate with, I can’t drive for shit (no one wants to teach me) I think I almost have a job, since I just gotta drop the application off.

Second of all, I don’t LOOK like an almost 18 year old girl, I look like im 12 (which seems to be the average age, since most people I meet say that) and it’s insulting. I understand if you go "oh I didn’t know you were 17" but i find it really disrespectful and ignorant to blurt out "i thought you were 12", to me that’s just like telling an obese person "I thought you were just pregnant".

Physically, I have grown since I was 12, im taller, a little bit bigger (when i was 12 my weight was in the 80’s and now im 122lbs). Im not the type of girl to wear makeup (i don’t look right with makeup) and it’s not like I shop in the kids’ section, I shop at hot topic, forever 21 and pacsun like most people my age, and im not short, since I practically tower over most people i’ve met, I don’t know, it’s things like this that make me feel retarded. Im starting college (state university, not community college) in the fall and im kinda scared because I don’t exactly look like a college student, Im probably gonna feel like a weirdo like I did in high school there, too. I don’t know what to do. I dont think it’s the way I dress since most of my clothes aren’t really that bright, neon type stuff they wear on disney or something. I really don’t know what to do, any advice?

And no. I’ve never been in a relationship. I’ve come to the conclusion that I am unnattractive (that can’t be fixed unless I have surgery, but that’s another story) and/or guys will probably consider dating me illegal since i look 12 or something.

I get the same thing. I’m 19, 5 foot nothing, 90 pounds, and flat chested. God I hate it! I wish I could bulk up and get some damn curves! I hate looking like a skeletal tween.
Now my rant is over. I will now dispense some advice. I would stop shopping at Hot Topic. The whole emo and punk thing is a very 12 and 13 year old thing. At this age you should have already gotten over the melodramatic "no one understands me", "my parents are like totally dictators", "I’m gonna rebel against society with these awesome chains" phase.
I would wear a bit of makeup. Some mascara and a neutral shimmery eyeshadow would be a good, easy way to start.
READ! I love reading and the more you read the more you will know and the larger your vocabulary will be. Reading will allow you to speak more intelligently and coherently. The more mature you seem when speaking the older you appear.
Once you’re living on campus I wouldn’t sweat it. Everyone there is a college student and everyone will rightly assume you are a college student and therefore not 12.
When you meet new people let your personality shine through. Be outgoing and have a sense of humor. People will come to know your for your confidence, intellect, and individuality. Your age will be reflected in the way you act as apposed to the way you look. An as people get to know you better they will stop thinking that you look like a 12 year old.
I have a boyfriend and he doesn’t see me as a girl who looks like she is 12. He thinks I’m pretty and sexy and very much a woman. He likes that I’m geeky and smart. He doesn’t care that I’m not popular or preppy or hip. He loves the fact that I’m unique and have my own style and even that I can be a spaz and a dork sometimes. He sees a classy, confident woman, not a 12 year old girl.
Don’t be afraid to talk to guys. But don’t try to jump into a relationship right away. When you meet new people at college make guy friends too. The best relationships start off as friendships.
Get out there and own who you are! The way you carry yourself says more about your age than the way you look.

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Ever since I was really little, I’ve always believed that it was impossible for a man to actually care about a woman. I believed that women could fall in love with men, but not the other way around.

I’m a 17-year-old female and I am straight. I do not, however, want to have sex, it repulses me. The thought makes me nauseous and uncomfortable. I know that I would never want to be in a relationship with women the same way I would want to be in one with a man though.

I find women repulsive. I don’t look down on them or anything, but I do despise myself. I find their voices annoying and look at them as being inferior. I believe that the only reason a man would marry a woman would be to sleep with her more often (if she was holding out because he hadn’t proposed), and he would cheat anyway. I believe that all men feel like this as well, and if they don’t they have repressed it, but they secretly want to beat up women. I thought gay men were the most like this, but in my experience, they’re the most wonderful and nicest people I’ve ever met. I still feel like they hate women a little bit, but I don’t feel they do as much as straight men. I had a very positive experience with a gay man when I was around 9, he really helped me get out of some stuff, so I tend to idolize them all a little bit.

Anyway, I am very uncomfortable by all people but I’ve noticed lately that most of my new friends have been male. I’m not in a relationship and will never be in a relationship with any of them, I’m not interested in them like that. But they’re nice, and I feel they do not look down on me as much as I would have expected males to. I hang out with them a lot, but I’m not manly or anything, I wear makeup and wear girly clothes and don’t have a manly physique. People have commented that I’m a girl at sports. Yet, I always end up hating myself for being around them too, because I hate my voice and the fact that I am female in general.

I’m not a transgender though, I don’t feel like I’m a man on the inside. I would be very uncomfortable wearing men’s clothing and having short hair and all that. I enjoy wearing girly things but at the same time, I find them disgusting. I wear baggy clothes sometimes to try to hide my body, and when men hit on me or talk to me in a non-friend kind of way, I feel terrible. The thought of those instances makes me very nauseous and upset.

What is wrong with me?

Don’t know go to a psychologist or something.Maybe you’ve heard many men being sexist towards women when you were younger and now you’ve come to believe this.You also must have some kind of complex,either superiority or inferiority that’s why you hate women.

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its a long one lol
i have very little self esteem. im a full time mum of 2 and am very proud of my children. how i see myself is really affecting my life, i have acne and am too ashamed to go gp to get it sorted, so instead i pile on makeup and hope it will go away (which i know wont it just makes it worse). it affects my kids as i don’t like to go out unless i have to, i cant play with them how i should or take them swimming, things people take for granted as im scared my make up will come off and people will see my horrible face. it affects my relationship as i take 2 hours to get ready and he hates it, we argue. i want to go to work but am to ashamed to meet new people and i take so long to get ready i would have to get up at 5am to be ready for a 9till 5 job. bizarrely people tell me im beautiful and i get chatted up all the time so i cant work it out. how can i make myself more confident without actually changing how i look????
its not a case of how other people see me its about myself. people tell me im beautiful all the time, sometimes random strangers will just come and say it. but it makes me feel worse about myself. im happy in life and i dont care what others think of me, i want to be happy with myself.

Think Positive. Say "I am beautiful", once a day when looking in the mirror. Think of your positive features. Do not be ashamed to get help for your acne, because that just makes it worse. Believe in your self, and know that you are beautiful. And go out and about once in a while, no matter what you think that day. Maybe even some counseling could help. =]

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Me and my spouse are both in are early 20’s. I am 39 weeks pregnant with my third child. The first child is from a past relationship but two of the children are my spoouses. I come to notice today that i may in be a relationship that has always been or that is beginning to be emotional abuse as my spouse has been blowing up at me frequently weekend after weekend out of no where with lots to say and putting me down. What to do when you feel you are emotionally abused?
Things he has said : im hairy, im lazy, im a bumb and just sit on my ass and expect to have everything paid for, why do i even put on makeup who’s gonna look at me, today at 39 weeks pregnant he says for me to get off my fat ass, he says very negative things about my family, my mom is in a relationship with a black man and he says for me to go get a black guy. i dunno thats just alittle bit of things. But what do you think . He said all this today and i need to be strong as this is hard for me because i have a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old and due for my third child this week. I do not feel that i am any of those things he has said to me cause i am smarter then that and know how much of a good mother i am and hard working mother.
My feelings for my spouse have really changed as i feel anger towards him and the hurtful things he has been saying and feels about me.
I have not really told anyone about what has been going on because i dont really know anyone close enough to trust and respect my personal problems with my spouse.
After he put me down all day he left with my two children for the day and came back like everything is ok. People say things when they get upset he says no big deal.

Leave that LOSER!!! NOW!

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we just broke up a week ago and she can even talk to me in a friendly way. she’s removed me from her msn (found out via meebo.com) and she texted me to say she wanted to return my stuff (friendly tone). sometimes she replies my sms, sometimes don’t. according to her friends they say she’s ok after the breakup. we broke up many times before because of my bad temper. she’s not the perfect gf and we only dated for 7 months, but she has good qualities and i missed her. i really want to win her back and go for anger management just so i won’t lose her. but she won’t listen to anymore of my apologies and promises. pls advise. thanks!

Actions speak louder than words. Go for anger management and work on improving yourself. Then go to her when you’ve completed that. You may have to start fresh with a new girl once you’ve improved yourself. Sometimes that’s the way it works out when nothing changes between two people who have tried more than once to be together.

Good luck.

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