Do they date outside their own race and if they do what type of women do they go with? Black? White? Hispanic? Asian?

if you mean indian from india, then rarely but its usually cultural issue, indian people don’t hang out with white kids, i mean i only know like two cool indians at my school, and they rarely ever hang out with me and my Friend’s so go figure why they don’t’ meet white girls. If you want a white girl, be nice cool and go out and meet them don’t just hang out with all the other indian kids. its not like we are mean or anything either they just never come out with us. i do know one hot indian girl that dates a white guy but that’s the only one i have seen. also seriously work on your Hygiene because i don’t mean to be mean but indian kids smell awful

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i think i know what to do in terms of hair, makeup, clothes, ect.

i want to start working out more, like doing pilates and more cardio. im not overweight, but i just want to really look good haha. (for myself as well as to get guys)

oh and i know that being confident is the most important.. smiling, laughing, being fun, all that good stuff

anyway, i think i’ve gone on enough about this stuff, i want to hear what all of you have to say :]

bend over lol jk show play hard 2 get

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I’m a 17-year-old female and I am straight. I do not, however, want to have sex, it repulses me. The thought makes me nauseous and uncomfortable. I know that I would never want to be in a relationship with women the same way I would want to be in one with a man though.

I find women repulsive. I don’t look down on them or anything, but I do despise myself. I find their voices annoying and look at them as being inferior. I believe that the only reason a man would marry a woman would be to sleep with her more often (if she was holding out because he hadn’t proposed), and he would cheat anyway. I believe that all men feel like this as well, and if they don’t they have repressed it, but they secretly want to beat up women. I thought gay men were the most like this, but in my experience, they’re the most wonderful and nicest people I’ve ever met. I still feel like they hate women a little bit, but I don’t feel they do as much as straight men. I had a very positive experience with a gay man when I was around 9, he really helped me get out of some stuff, so I tend to idolize them all a little bit.

Anyway, I am very uncomfortable by all people but I’ve noticed lately that most of my new friends have been male. I’m not in a relationship and will never be in a relationship with any of them, I’m not interested in them like that. But they’re nice, and I feel they do not look down on me as much as I would have expected males to. I hang out with them a lot, but I’m not manly or anything, I wear makeup and wear girly clothes and don’t have a manly physique. People have commented that I’m a girl at sports. Yet, I always end up hating myself for being around them too, because I hate my voice and the fact that I am female in general.

I’m not a transgender though, I don’t feel like I’m a man on the inside. I would be very uncomfortable wearing men’s clothing and having short hair and all that. I enjoy wearing girly things but at the same time, I find them disgusting. I wear baggy clothes sometimes to try to hide my body, and when men hit on me or talk to me in a non-friend kind of way, I feel terrible. The thought of those instances makes me very nauseous and upset.

What is wrong with me?

Don’t know go to a psychologist or something.Maybe you’ve heard many men being sexist towards women when you were younger and now you’ve come to believe this.You also must have some kind of complex,either superiority or inferiority that’s why you hate women.

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We both go to different schools, I’m a Sophomore at a new school this year, and I’m pretty shy, so I wasn’t meeting very many new people. Anyway, we still talked all the time, and I saw him at least once a week, a lot of the time 2 or 3 times… on weekdays and stuff, and we would text on a daily basis.

Now, my mom makes my home life incredibly upsetting, like, 99% of the time, but I tried not to complain about it. I only did complain about it a few times to him, I tried to keep it to myself unless he asked about it.

Everything is going great, then one day, we both went to help my Mother out at her shop, cause we both could have used a little extra money.
He acted kind of upset all day, so I asked him what’s wrong, he said "I’ll tell you when we’re alone"
So, we went to the back of the shop to clean some more, and I said "Really, are you okay?"

He said "Do you think you would be happier if you had a boyfriend at your school?"

Me: "Of course not! I care about who the person is, not whether they go to my school, or whether I see them daily."

Him: "I really want you to be happy. This is insanely hard for me to say, but I really want you to try to find someone at your school, I think you’d be happier that way. Besides, when we get back together, we’ll be so happy to see eachother, and I think the relationship will grow even more."

He thought that I wasn’t making an attempt to meet new people, and if we didn’t have a relationship, I’d try to meet people more.

I told him it was just my nature, I don’t speak to people unless they speak to me first, usually. Whether we were in a relationship or not I’d still act the same.

He still wanted me to try to meet somebody else, cause he thought I’d be happier seeing my boyfriend on a daily basis. So he said:

"We should take a break. You’re free to go up to kissing a guy… or whatever you want, I’d just prefer that’d be the most that you go. I mean, it’s gonna kill me if you do, but I really want you to be happy. Try and find somebody in these 2 weeks, please."

so I asked him a few questions about it, and we discussed it.

We agreed to take a break, 2 weeks. He said I could do anything I wanted with guys (I wasn’t planning on doing ANYTHING at all), and he said he wouldn’t even think about doing anything with a girl. He’s been cheated on before, so have I, and we both trusted eachother.
We could still talk to eachother, maybe hang out, but no relationship stuff. Just friends.

I was incredibly confused by this, but I went along with it.

We still kept our status to "In A Relationship" on our myspace, and still kept eachother as top friends (both number 2, right below our bestfriends), still texted, not too often though.
We only talked if we actually had something to say, never just "How are you!? " and carry on from there.
We hung out once within the two weeks, just as friends. It was kinda weird, but I still went along with it.

We were supposed to get back together Friday (Oct. 16), so on Thursday (Oct. 15) I texted him saying "Where the Wild Things Are comes out tomorrow, would you like to go see it with me? " It was his favorite book as a kid, and we’d planned on seeing it together weeks prior to our break.

He said "I have plans, sorry."
I said "Oh, it’s fine."

I figured he’d love having a great makeup day, since we hadn’t seen eachother in almost 2 weeks. I had an amazing evening planned out, and I was going to buy him a gift, something for his guitar, to celebrate.

We hadn’t talked about this whole break at all during the 2 week period, and I decided to ask him about it saying "So… tomorrow is Friday… end of the 2 weeks… what’s your decision on it?

He said: "I told Ashley I’d hang out with her."

I mean, on a regular day I’d be fine with him hanging out with a good friend, but this was the day we were supposed to get back together, happily.

I said "Not about what you’re doing, that’s fine.. I mean, with our break..?"

He said "Oh… I don’t know yet."

It’s been 2 days since we were supposed to get back together…
did I do something wrong?
Maybe we spent too much time together?

We both RARELY like anybody, It’s not just a new crush every few months. We were completely fine with being single. He told me he’s never felt this way. He told me he truly liked me. All of his friends said he acted different around me than all his other girlfriends. He told me I was the only girlfriend his friends not only liked, but loved.

I need someone elses point of view on this… cause I know there could be something that I’m just blind to because I’m the actual person going through it.

Hey… i can sense many things going on here –

maybe hes cheating on you
maybe hes not cheating but definitely taking a break (a long one) from you
maybe he has some friends advising him to do this, even if hes not willing to
I can sense that he doesnt want to be with you. If he really likes you, he would always try to be with you. in 3 months, a guy doesnt get bored of his GF (unless he doesnt like her / has another one)
may be he wants to focus on his career. or he likes someone else and doesnt want to cheat on you.

my advise is – if you want him back / things to be normal again – dont be clingy / dont cry / beg / get really angry or something. He knows what he is doing is not normal in any relationship. So just make him realize that you put in everything in this relationship and he is not. Also, be really strong and show that. maybe hes not telling you the reason he is acting weird is probably he thinks youll get all emotional and blame him for "playing with my heart" sort of thing.

So if you wanna know whats wrong, be patient and carry on with your life, school, be near your parents to divert attention from what is going on in your life and show him that you are just fine. Dont text him too much. youll find out the real thing in a week or two. get one of your friends to give you information about him from time to time. please dont get obsessed about it. Hope this helps.

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He pretty much always has a beer in hand, never completely trashed (around us at least). Her dads girlfriend recently made a comment about making this year more about family.

This concerned me, I found myself thinking some pretty negative thoughts about how they want to leech into our lives and onto our hard work (we’ve got our lives together) and that I would just not rather have them in our life. I don’t like the fact that I think this, because I’m usually a pretty caring person, and I find myself second guessing my "hard line in the sand" because I know its her DAD and after all he is part of the family.

Up until now, our relationship has been getting a little closer than it was (her and her dad didn’t speak or even send cards for many years). This is clearly because we had a son, and I think he realizes he messed up with her and wants to makeup for it. So he has been buying our grandson gifts, and took us out to dinner a few times, had Easter at their house (which I was out of town for).To me, I would kind of like to limit it to that, and even that is pushing it. I don’t want to be unreasonable here, and I know I need to take my wifes wants/ needs into this as well but now we are running into a situation where she arranged for them to babysit for us and the whole thing is making me REALLY uncomfortable – like my wife is allowing a serpent to sneak up on our child! I know thats a horrible image, but when she told me that is seriously what I thought. His girlfriend musta been surprised my wife allowed it too, because my wife told me she made the comment "dont worry, I REALLY AM A GOOD GRANDMOTHER". I guess my view is if you need to say something like that, then you probably aren’t! (though perhaps she is just saying that she isn’t the perpetrator of the bad behavior and trying to distancing herself from him).

My wife’s dad also recently lost his wife (to alcoholism), which may have played a part in his change, but maybe I’m just cold person but I don’t think so. I should mention that my wife seems to fool herself into believing the problems between her and her dad were caused by his wife (the one who died). So I can see how she might want to try again with him with her not there, but I think we both know deep down that, while his late wife may have been very mean to her (my wife) as a child, HER DAD was the one who made the choice to not put a priority on his daughter (my wife).

I am torn, because it would be nice if they wanted to be in our life, but I do not want them in our life on THEIR terms of current lifestyle. And I DON’T want for my son to be negatively impacted by this – in any way shape or form AT ALL. My wife and I also agree that these is little to zero chance that her dad will change. I wish my wife were stronger, But I KNOW that she will not confront him about his drinking problem, for whatever reason she is scared. I think its because she knows that if forced to pick between us (HER) and the bottle, he will choose the bottle – and that would open up deep wounds from childhood for her.

So she seems content to receive them with open arms, thinking any positive change they make is good. I agree, but where we differ is that I feel like we need to set some kind of boundaries and limit our relationship with them until they change. And even if they do change, I’ve been around alcohol long enough that I know once someone is an alcoholic they can easily fall back especially when they’ve been into that lifestyle for 40+ years.

PLEASE HELP!!

What should we do? Do I need to be the ****** in this situation? Part of me says "MAN UP" and protect your son and I know that I will do that if I need to, as of now I’ve let her take charge of matters concerning her family and so have been the a nice guy around her dad and his girlfriend. However, if I do exchange words with him, I know it will probably get heated and I will wind up issuing him an ultimatum and then my wife will be mad at ME!

If it were up to me, I’d say "drop em". Don’t need that in my life. But then again, would I be like that to my dad or mom? Probably not. So I need to be careful, I wish my wife would get the strength to see this situation for what it is, but in the meantime – what boundaries can and should be set without totally driving them out of our life? This is hard.
>>You wrote to much so I refuse to answer…..

Well PISS OFF then mate. It’s my family we’re talking about here and this could make or break it if I allow him to go with grandpa who drives drunk and kills my boy. Sorry to inconvenience you with a few paragraphs.
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

You have all sorts of issues and anger here which are unrelated to these people’s abilities to grandparent/influence on your son, who will not be harmed by Grandpa being a bit beer-y. Don’t let them drive, and find something else to worry about.
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K, I can see how you would think this regarding my response to Jacks lazy, unthoughtful, non-answer. Maybe I overreacted to him, but consider that alcohol has been a problem for our family, we have put years of work into figuring out how to live with it, after having it nearly destroy our relationship (before our son). My appeal to yahoo answers may have been random, but at least I put some thought into explaining the situation so people could get as good a read on the situation as possible. Yes, Jacks answer bothered me, but please don’t mistake that for "anger unrelated to these people".
The way I see it, they made decisions in life. They CHOSE to put themselves first and made a priority out of having fun. Even when it hurt other people. I’m sorry, but thats not the kind of behavior that one should expect out of family. To me, family means you can COUNT on them. That wouldn’t apply here, and about drinking and driving, you try taking away a drunks keys. Some will let you, some won’t.
My wifes mothers boyfriend has been there from the beginning, and is 1000X better grandpa, not to mention two great grandpas on my side (my dad and step dad). I should make it clear that if my dad or stepdad with the alcohol problem, I would step in in a heartbeat and tell them they can be a part of our family on our terms. Why is it wrong to want to protect your family from a hazard?

You need to sit down with your wife and explain how you feel and the both of you agree to boundaries.
Don’t let him take care of your child alone, don’t let him drive him anywhere or anything unsafe – I’m sure you can both agree to that.

The odds are, your wife may need some counseling herself to address how she has felt all these years, and the want to make it okay shouldn’t outweigh the very real concerns you have. She’s trying to salvage an important relationship to her – and most people, once they have kids, think a LOT about their childhood and try to make things better, even if it’s just in their heads.

Limit visits. Have them over for dinner ONCE a week or once every other week. See how that goes.
Ask your wife what she feels is a good start, and see if you can build a relationship that works for all of you. UNTIL you have good reason to start limiting things again, then just slowly build things up. That way, your wife sees you’re trying to be civil, and your FIL has a chance to prove himself.

The second he seems drunk or anything, visit is over. You can’t expect him to change overnight, but you can expect him to behave decently and safely around your child. Just assuming that he will leach off your lives isn’t enough to cut him off – but unsafe behavior is.

All you can do is try to keep explaining how you feel to your wife, that you don’t want your toddler to feel how she did as a kid, and that you ARE trying to meet her halfway. You can’t cut him out until you have a good reason. Be reasonable, don’t assume the worst, and get her to agree that when you feel very uncomfortable, that she will be sensitive to that. Once you’ve agreed to some simple rules and simple visits, then drop the discussion for awhile until you can gauge how he’s being. Give it a month and see how you feel – and then either restrict more, or keep things as they are.

Maybe both of you should attend meetings of those who suffer with alcoholics, or just some counseling to help both you figure out what works for you, and how to handle him. I didn’t see anything that said RED FLAG to me – but you obviously are VERY wary of the whole thing, and are super sensitive to anything involving them.

Talk to your wife and ask her what she feels is meeting her halfway, and then try to relax and enjoy what little relationship there is UNTIL there is a serious issue such as him wanting to drive your child.

You don’t have to like your in-laws, you just have to learn to get along enough to make your wife happy, while still making sure your son is safe. I doubt your wife would let him do ANYTHING to your son considering her past – but if she has let go, you need to too.

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buy a bottle of mineral water, open it pour out the water and pour in the vodka close the lid.

its not usual to see someone with a 1L bottle of water, and if you get any issues, explain you are filling dehydrated etc. best thing is to carry it by hand if you can.

If you cover something with lead, you’re bags will be opened. It could be a bomb for all the guards know. That is the kind of actions that will get you thrown off the cruise before it starts

Guards with x-ray machines check 100s of bags i and fairly sure they can detect a tell tail signs of a bottle and metal lid. So a plastic bottle will be fine.

You probably will be able to find something better on the ship if you are concerned about plastic + vodka, for example give a maid a tip and they probably can get a glass container…

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There are more and more people resorting to online dating to find their potential partners. This is not exactly surprising. This is because in some aspects, Internet dating can prove more advantageous than real world dating. Why is this so?

Imagine how it is like to date in the real world. How many nights have you asked your friends to set you up on a blind date, only to get frustrated? How many weekends have you gone to a bar in hopes of meeting someone, yet again end up frustrated? How many times have you asked a friend to watch a movie with you, or to dinner, yet boldly tells you in the end that you are just not their type? I am sure you have had your share of dates. Even if you are the most handsome bachelor or a pretty gal, all your attempts to date may have always ended up in vain. With all these, you may end up wondering: is it your fault?

As in many others, the concept of dating has changed with the introduction of the Internet. Not only has communication been made a million times faster, but it has also helped improve relationships in a multitude of ways. More importantly, it has helped finding potential partners in the Internet a lot easier.

Online dating simply involves signing up on a website which has been especially designed to allow singles to meet and mingle. After signing up, you simply build your profile, upload a photo and wait for someone to notice you and send you an email. Better yet, you simply search through the thousands or even millions of profile. You do not have to go through them one by one. Instead, narrow down your search to include your preferences, and then start communicating with someone you may potentially like. When you establish contact, it may just be the start of a good romantic relationship.

As you can see, online dating is quick and overly convenient. You can find your potential mate within the comfort of your very own home. No more frustrating nights, no more expenses on dinners, date dresses, or cocktail drinks. More importantly, you can regain your self-esteem which you may have lost during one of those frustrating, lonely nights.

Not only that, online dating provides you far more choices than real world dating ever can. You literally have millions to choose from. Though locations may vary, there will surely be one who lives close to you and matches your exact preferences. You can even get to know new people from other countries, which are preferable to many. As long as you can speak a little English, you can very well communicate to the rest of the world. As if these were not enough, you can choose to communicate with them anytime you want as well.

Another reason is that communication in online dating is like an inbuilt paradox: it can be very personal and intimate yet still anonymous. This way, you can honestly reveal your truest self and your real emotions knowing that the other party will appreciate it.

Once you have established trust and confidence in each other through the online dating site, you may be ready to meet face to face. When you meet, it will not be as awkward as most first dates as you already have bits and pieces of information about each other to bank on and discuss further.

Alan Lim
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/reasons-why-online-dating-is-better-than-real-world-dating-303010.html

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So you’ve heard how great cruise vacations are, and now you’ve decided to take to the high seas for a fortnight of luxury and pampering. But there’s a lot to think about. So before you select a cruise line, a cruise ship or even get in touch with a travel agent, there are certain issues that are vital to consider.

1) Who is going on the cruise?

Although this question should be easy to answer, it can have a bearing on the type of cruise line and ship that you ultimately choose.

If you and your partner want to take a relaxing cruise, there are many ships that are aimed at couples. In fact some cruise ships actively discourage or even ban people from taking children onboard.

If you will be cruising as a couple, it’s also important to consider the dining situation. On ships with assigned seating, you will have to specify the size of table that you want. However, on many ships, tables for two are in short supply, so if this is an important issue, this may influence your choice of cruise line and ship. Just make sure that you make this clear to your travel agent or the cruise line when booking.

On the other hand, if you want to take your children or travel with the rest of your extended family, there are certain cruise lines and ships within cruise lines that are specifically tailored with family vacations in mind.

2) How much have you got to spend?

It’s possible to find a cruise vacation to suit almost any budget. So before you go any further it’s important to work out how much you’re willing to spend on your holiday.

But as a general rule, you’ll need to set aside at least $150 per person per day to cover the cost of your cruise. However, bigger cabins in more luxurious ships can cost many times this figure.

However, it is possible to get more for your money if you;

a) Book early: Most cruise lines are willing to give generous discounts if you book your cruise 6-12 months in advance.

b) Book late: Likewise, if you book within 2 months of setting sail, most cruise lines will give you hefty discounts to fill the remaining cabins.

3) How long have you got?

The number of days that you want your vacation to last will determine the type and location of cruises that are available to you.

If you only have a few days, the main option is a one port cruise. This means that the ship leaves port sails around the sea/ocean for two or three days and then returns to the same port. The ship doesn’t call at any other ports, but it does give you a few days at sea. This is a good way to get the feel for a certain cruise ship, or even cruising in general.

If you have a week to spare, this gives you more choices. If you live in the US, this gives you the choice of Hawaii, Alaska, Florida, Mexico or even a Caribbean cruise. If you live in Europe this will give you access to the mediterranean, north africa, or even a nordic cruise.

Alternatively, if you want to increase the number of locations available, you could fly to and from the start/finish location of your cruise or take a one way cruise either flying to the start location or flying home after disembarkation.

If you have two weeks or longer, you can cruise almost any part of the world.

4) What time of the year?

The time of year that you take your cruise will have a major affect on two issues;

a) The Price: As with all forms of travel, your holiday will cost more during the peak season. In contrast, most cruises are cheaper in the spring or fall.

Traditionally, the winter was considered the high season for Caribbean destinations, but due to the weight of supply and demand (people who have to take their vacation during the summer) the summertime costs are almost on a par with the cost of a winter Caribbean cruise.

b) The Locations Available: The time of year that you take your cruise will also determine the locations that are available. Although this won’t make much difference to the more mainstream locations such as the Caribbean or the Mediterranean, certain places have a distinct cruise season.

If you want to go to Alaska or northern Europe, the main cruise season lasts from May till September.

For Antartica, the season is even shorter, running from November to February.

Although the tropical regions are in season all year, there is a great variation in the amount of rainfall throughout the year. Locations such as the Caribbean will have less rain during the summer months and more rain during the winter months.

And finally, although not a restriction as such, some people prefer to avoid places that may be affected by the hurricane season. If a cruise ship encounters a storm it will alter its route to avoid it, which means you may miss certain places that you wanted to visit.

5) What part of the world do you want to visit?

You can cruise almost anywhere in the world, even landlocked countries are often available to explore through river cruises. So it’s no surprise that this is one of the hardest decisions for cruise newcomers to make.

The amount of days that you have for your vacation will narrow your options, but beyond that, consider other issues, such as;

If you want to or have to take your vacation at a certain time of the year, which locations are available?

If you particularly want to use a certain cruise line, which locations do their ships visit?

What type of weather and climate do you prefer?

Are there any particular landmarks that you want to visit?

Are there any activities or adventures that you want to experience?

Now all you have to do it to get in touch with your travel agent.

Kristen Olsen
http://www.articlesbase.com/travel-articles/planning-your-first-cruise-things-to-consider-part-1-129768.html

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or maybe there’s the saying ‘opposites attract’ so maybe you’re too different from each other

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