Posts Tagged ‘5 Months’

Me and my boyfriend met about 5 months ago, and have been dating for about 3 months.
We’re only 15 and 16, but we have.. well, had maybe, a good, mature relationship. We took things slowly, and respected one another. He didn’t ask for anything sexual, he let me make all the intimate decisions.

We both go to different schools, I’m a Sophomore at a new school this year, and I’m pretty shy, so I wasn’t meeting very many new people. Anyway, we still talked all the time, and I saw him at least once a week, a lot of the time 2 or 3 times… on weekdays and stuff, and we would text on a daily basis.

Now, my mom makes my home life incredibly upsetting, like, 99% of the time, but I tried not to complain about it. I only did complain about it a few times to him, I tried to keep it to myself unless he asked about it.

Everything is going great, then one day, we both went to help my Mother out at her shop, cause we both could have used a little extra money.
He acted kind of upset all day, so I asked him what’s wrong, he said "I’ll tell you when we’re alone"
So, we went to the back of the shop to clean some more, and I said "Really, are you okay?"

He said "Do you think you would be happier if you had a boyfriend at your school?"

Me: "Of course not! I care about who the person is, not whether they go to my school, or whether I see them daily."

Him: "I really want you to be happy. This is insanely hard for me to say, but I really want you to try to find someone at your school, I think you’d be happier that way. Besides, when we get back together, we’ll be so happy to see eachother, and I think the relationship will grow even more."

He thought that I wasn’t making an attempt to meet new people, and if we didn’t have a relationship, I’d try to meet people more.

I told him it was just my nature, I don’t speak to people unless they speak to me first, usually. Whether we were in a relationship or not I’d still act the same.

He still wanted me to try to meet somebody else, cause he thought I’d be happier seeing my boyfriend on a daily basis. So he said:

"We should take a break. You’re free to go up to kissing a guy… or whatever you want, I’d just prefer that’d be the most that you go. I mean, it’s gonna kill me if you do, but I really want you to be happy. Try and find somebody in these 2 weeks, please."

so I asked him a few questions about it, and we discussed it.

We agreed to take a break, 2 weeks. He said I could do anything I wanted with guys (I wasn’t planning on doing ANYTHING at all), and he said he wouldn’t even think about doing anything with a girl. He’s been cheated on before, so have I, and we both trusted eachother.
We could still talk to eachother, maybe hang out, but no relationship stuff. Just friends.

I was incredibly confused by this, but I went along with it.

We still kept our status to "In A Relationship" on our myspace, and still kept eachother as top friends (both number 2, right below our bestfriends), still texted, not too often though.
We only talked if we actually had something to say, never just "How are you!? " and carry on from there.
We hung out once within the two weeks, just as friends. It was kinda weird, but I still went along with it.

We were supposed to get back together Friday (Oct. 16), so on Thursday (Oct. 15) I texted him saying "Where the Wild Things Are comes out tomorrow, would you like to go see it with me? " It was his favorite book as a kid, and we’d planned on seeing it together weeks prior to our break.

He said "I have plans, sorry."
I said "Oh, it’s fine."

I figured he’d love having a great makeup day, since we hadn’t seen eachother in almost 2 weeks. I had an amazing evening planned out, and I was going to buy him a gift, something for his guitar, to celebrate.

We hadn’t talked about this whole break at all during the 2 week period, and I decided to ask him about it saying "So… tomorrow is Friday… end of the 2 weeks… what’s your decision on it?

He said: "I told Ashley I’d hang out with her."

I mean, on a regular day I’d be fine with him hanging out with a good friend, but this was the day we were supposed to get back together, happily.

I said "Not about what you’re doing, that’s fine.. I mean, with our break..?"

He said "Oh… I don’t know yet."

It’s been 2 days since we were supposed to get back together…
did I do something wrong?
Maybe we spent too much time together?

We both RARELY like anybody, It’s not just a new crush every few months. We were completely fine with being single. He told me he’s never felt this way. He told me he truly liked me. All of his friends said he acted different around me than all his other girlfriends. He told me I was the only girlfriend his friends not only liked, but loved.

I need someone elses point of view on this… cause I know there could be something that I’m just blind to because I’m the actual person going through it.

Hey… i can sense many things going on here –

maybe hes cheating on you
maybe hes not cheating but definitely taking a break (a long one) from you
maybe he has some friends advising him to do this, even if hes not willing to
I can sense that he doesnt want to be with you. If he really likes you, he would always try to be with you. in 3 months, a guy doesnt get bored of his GF (unless he doesnt like her / has another one)
may be he wants to focus on his career. or he likes someone else and doesnt want to cheat on you.

my advise is – if you want him back / things to be normal again – dont be clingy / dont cry / beg / get really angry or something. He knows what he is doing is not normal in any relationship. So just make him realize that you put in everything in this relationship and he is not. Also, be really strong and show that. maybe hes not telling you the reason he is acting weird is probably he thinks youll get all emotional and blame him for "playing with my heart" sort of thing.

So if you wanna know whats wrong, be patient and carry on with your life, school, be near your parents to divert attention from what is going on in your life and show him that you are just fine. Dont text him too much. youll find out the real thing in a week or two. get one of your friends to give you information about him from time to time. please dont get obsessed about it. Hope this helps.

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My good friend is 20 years old.
She has had only 1 serious relationship for 5 months.
Has never had sex, still too scared.
Still acts uncomfortable around boys she likes, acts nervous.
if someone were to mention something sexual like "eating out" she says ew
She is somewhat sexually experienced but why does "eating out" disgust her
She can not say penis, she still laughs if someone says vagina or penis
She recently was dismissed from college.
Did not study that much, spend most of her time calling me and her other high school buddies.
We always talked about the same thing s – boys, relationships, how unattractive she is (insecurities), physical beauty and celebrities, getting back at old high school enemies, old crushes.
Did not join any associates, clubs or sororities on campus
Did not make many friends on campus or go out that much
three times around finals week she purposely overdosed on over-the-counter drugs to avoid taking the finals because she did not study
has only had a job at the school cafeteria for 4-5 months and had her first job when she was 19 years old
She has no car, driver’s license, no job and still lives at home with her father
She does not wear makeup, always wears sweats, does not even know how to cook or do her own hair – braids, weaves, etc.
She pays other people to do her hair.
when she liked a guy, she wanted to get her hair in twists, she asked him about, he said they were ugly, so she did not get them

And worst of all, has a shallow and judgmental friend like you.

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Has anyone gotten any- how were they? I am looking to go in the end of June, but I want a good deal and I don’t mind taking a chance for the last minute.

You pay more when ur going to cruse last minute. Unless if you bought the ticket 5 months before its would definitely be cheaper. So. no you dont get good deals booking at the last minute.

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Hey there, I would like some relationship advice! I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months now, and she is 22 and I am 20. Age is not really an issue, as I am mature for my age. I love to work out, keep fit and am doing well at Uni. She is a hairdresser, and a really nice girl. We love each other, but recently, we have been arguing so much that I am worried I will break up with her. She likes to wear a lot of makeup, and go tanning (in beds) a lot- this has happened recently and when I express my concern she gets very defensive. So I tried talking calmly about it, but to no avail. She also always complains about how ugly she is without makeup, and whenever I tell her she is beautiful she just ignores me. I have had 3 girlfriends before her, she has had 10 boyfriends. Any help?

Well you will be glad to know they are going to put a tax on these tanning beds. I think your a sweetheart to want her to be "a la naturel" My son feels the same way, he doesn’t like a girl with a lot of makeup on. As his Mother I always used makeup but didn’t make it hardcore, I think he feels that way, because he loves the natural beauty I have. But, who knows

You have to bear in mind she is in the Beauty Business. And these are very things that surround her life daily. If you are really ugly; no make up will improve your looks. She has a problem with her own self esteem and her appearance. I don’t know that you can change her program, Sounds sad she is ignoring your loving advice.

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